There is a group of people who are amazingly motivated but actually never achieve. When you meet them you wonder why, because they seem to have all the abilities and skills and even some really reasonable action taken.
If this is your employee and you need to manage them it can bring a lot of frustration to your work relationship.
If you are the person who has all it takes and still do not achieve – that brings frustration into your life and can even bring you to loosing hope and motivation.
Let’s look closer at the behaviours that can be corrected or improved in order to bring more results, achievements and … happiness of course.
What are main common mistakes that people do and sabotage their own success?
Problem number 1
They avoid dreaming and visioning.
Therefore do not create bigger picture. Dreaming is obviously not the one single solution to gain success but there is one important thing that you create when dreaming. It is a vision of a life or business that you want to create. This vision can evolve during your work and sometimes even change completely but what it gives you is very important: direction.Without main direction people jump from one idea to another, obtain one certificate after another and do not stay long enough in one area to see valuable results. Their actions are not connected.
What would be a solution for your employee?
Remind them about the bigger picture. What are the company values and vision? What are the key points that your company wants to achieve this year?
Ask what they want to achieve in the company and how does it support their own values and dreams?
Do not worry if they will not give you the answer right away. Actually, they probably won’t. But these questions will show them that they need to find their own direction and their actions will become more consistent and therefore more successful.
What would be the solution for you?
You are going to need a few minutes so put it into your diary. And don’t wait, do it today. Sit down and let your thoughts to flow. What is the most important in your life? Who are the most important people? Is there a cause you would love to support but do not have enough time to do it properly? What do you want to get rid of from your life?
How do you want to earn the money? How are you going to build your career in order to support enough earnings? What hobbies and passions do you want to pursue? How much money do you need to earn for that?
If that helps find the wheel of life and use it as a planning tool. What area do you want to work on first?
Remember to plan for the next 5 years at least. Research shows that the decision we make now makes the most impact on our life in 5 years.
Are you creating your bright future right now?
Lets look closer at problem number 2
They plan but never execute.
Some people are just brilliant in prefect planning. Those plans are usually well developed and so colourful that they impress and motivate everyone. Unfortunately these people did not master the action part. They might even start plan implementation but get caught in urgent situations that need their immediate attention. Do not mistake that with laziness. They really want to do what they planned, but they just are easily distracted and demotivated because nothing went according to plan.
What could be a solution?
- Add dealing with everyday life into a plan. It is going to be a buffer for urgent and unseen situations.
- Rethink priorities. Look at the list of things that you have done in one day. Is it possible to delegate them and are they really so important?
- Check if the planning was realistic. That’s important! Usually about 5 hours of our day can be spent on actual tasks. The rest of it gets eaten by answering phone, making teas, eating lunch moving papers. Surprised? Check it with your work schedule.
- Avoid multi tasking. It is a myth anyway. Make your plan simpler and easier to modify.
- Every day in the morning spend 10 minutes (and not more) on planning a day. It is going to be easier to see upcoming situations and adjust to them. Crossing off points form your ‘to do’ list every day will give your sense of achievement and will give you experience that will improve your planning and executing skills in the future.
Solution for your employee?
If it is not you but your employee that suffers form ‘zero execution syndrome’ spend with them 20 minutes and listen to the way they plan their day. If you are well organised I am sure you will be able to give them some direction. Use points above as a guidance.
Problem number 3
They overestimate failures and underestimate achievements.
Looking forward to the end point of our journey often makes us forget that we do actually achieve a lot on the way. We learn new skills, practice new decisions, get to know new people, do things for the first time. Unfortunately being busy running towards success we forget to celebrate small steps that are the actual everyday success. I really like what Edison said about discovering a bulb: “every day I have learnt new ways it won’t work”. In fact getting up, coming to the office and doing actual work – that’s a success. The end result is only the cherry on the cake. What about the rest of cake?Just do not expect your manager to glorify you just for coming to work. Although I can assure you that once you will create a better approach to your every day success the results will shine shortly and catch the eye of your boss.If you do not see your every day achievements even the easiest failure makes you doubt yourself. Do you worry a lot? Do you always talk about failures and easily get annoyed? Actually you are celebrating failures! What ever gets your time and energy, grows. Mistakes are to learn form not to celebrate.
Solution is simple but not easy.
Change focus. Take away time from worrying about problems and give it much more to celebrating success. Problems will not disappear – sorry, but that way you will be able to maintain your motivation and flexibility in problem management. Small success on the way reassures us that we are able and have skills that are needed.
Think of it as the bank account. You pay in one coin with every small achievement. You pay out one coin with every failure. That way your account stays balanced and believe me: very quickly you will notice that you have more in your account than you ever thought. If you do not pay in anything when you succeed but pay out with failures well that quickly leads to doubt, demotivation and giving up.
How to work with your employee?
Make it your priority to “catch them” on doing something well and tell them about it. You can also talk more about their achievements on performance review. I do not mean you should make it up. Lying never works. But believe me, honest praise is priceless.
Good and bad news
Starting with the bad news: there can be many more reason to continuous failure. The good news is: there is a cure for almost every case! Therefore never give up, stay focused and do not stop believing and taking actions. If you need more skills learn and practice. If you need to spend few minutes more with your employee – it might be the best investment. I cross my fingers for you!
I am really interested what is your opinion: why some people just never achieve?
What would be your solution for that?